Do Kenyan men hate their women? Radio host Renee Ngamau thinks so. In a Facebook post, she says she is convinced that Kenyans do not love their women. Specifically, she says that Kenyan men hate their women. She concludes that “Kenyan men do not love, cherish, respect or protect their women.” However, how true is that?
Kenyan men dominate media discussions
She begins by saying,
After living here for near 4 years and counting, I am convinced Kenyans do not love their women. Look at conversations about women.
She proceeds to say the following,
Look at how the Kenyan media, which is dominated by male editors, reports or commentates on issues involving women.
The conversation about the male dominance in the media industry has been going on for a while now. I first saw it pick momentum after reading an article by Nanjira Sambuli. She questions the unequal representation of women in conferences, newsrooms, and boardrooms alike.
Nanjira calls the all-male panels ‘manels’ because men dominate them. She says that perception matters a lot and ‘manels’ portray women as lacking qualifications to take part in panel discussions. Thus, Renee Ngamau hits the nail on the head when she also talks about this unequal representation of women in the media.
Kenyan men direct the narrative about women
The perception here is also not only about ‘manels’ but also about who tells the narrative about women. Kenyan men dominate the conversations about women. Renee Ngamau continues,
If you are to follow the majority of the commentary, Kenyan women are wrong for being too pretty, too ugly, too stylish, too urbane, too rural, too ambitious, too young, too old, too rich, (and) too poor.
Thus, discussions about women in the Kenyan media portray them in bad light. A while back, I saw Dr. Wandia Njoya criticize an interview by Janet Mbugua on Citizen TV. The interview was a panel discussion with an invited audience of youthful members.
The theme of the discussion was that girls get too much focus than the boys. On her Facebook page, Dr. Wandia said that the show undermined the girl child. It made women feel guilty for their success. She said the show wanted women to apologize for being successful.
Women are wrong about pregnancy, childbirth, single parenthood, abortion
They are wrong for taking care of children that men abandon. They are wrong for not taking care of them. They are wrong for having unwanted babies. They are wrong for aborting them.
On this one, I will bring up something I wrote about why criminalizing abortion marginalizes women. First, I asked, do women get themselves pregnant? Second, I said that denying women the right to choose what they want to do with their bodies endangers their lives. This is especially when they have a pregnancy that they do not wish to keep. Yet, those who pretend to care so much about the unborn disappear when the unborn is born.
Again, we live in a society that still frowns upon single mothers. The majority will say that a woman cannot teach her child how to be a man. Yet the man who should take that responsibility is deadbeat. The woman never got herself pregnant. It was an act of sexual intercourse between a man and a woman. Yet, despite all the effort the woman puts in raising the child, she is wrong in the eyes of the public.
Women and positions of authority
They are wrong for heading corporations, running businesses.
This reminds one of people’s perception of women in authority at work. Let us take a typical workplace with a woman as a manager. When the boss is angry (the woman), people will first think she is on a “dry spell”. In addition, others will associate the anger with mood changes that result from Premenstrual syndrome (PMS).
That is when you will hear some whispering that she should go “get some” to cool her nerves. Yet, they never say the same about a man. Such comments and behavior undermines women in leadership.
Young women and the ‘sponsor’ tag
They are wrong for getting married, for getting divorced. They are especially evil when older men prey on them and have affairs with them. They are wrong when they reject the advances. They are wrong when they accept the advances.
Today, it is very difficult for a young woman to walk with a man way beyond his youth. People will automatically perceive the man to be the girl’s “sponsor”. They will say the man bankrolls the girl’s lifestyle. Some of that is happening though.
They portray those who fall for these older men as some garden tool. If the girls reject the advances, they become stupid and foolish. Also, the burden of divorce often falls on the woman where they claim she never played her role or she was after material benefits.
Kenyan men view their women as sex objects
Kenyan men hate their women. A phenomenon that is unique to this country. Their women are sex objects, evil by definition, and best done away with.
Do Kenyan men view their women as sex objects? Read my views on why stripping of women takes away their inherent dignity.
Lastly, Renee Ngamau ends by saying,
Look at main stream media. Look at the slant given to stories such as the murder of Jacob Juma and Willie Mwangi. Look at the content of the most popular radio and TV shows. Look at social media. Compare the number of great stories of advancement by Kenyan women and find me one that does not imply that her success has not broken her home or made her a worse mother. Show me a story about a woman who has done something great and the interview does not include inane questions about her private life. Res ipsa loquitor. Kenyan men do not love, cherish, respect or protect their women. Prove me wrong.
Do you think Kenyan men hate their own women? Kindly present your views in the comments section.